Psychotherapy
Harmonizes Emotional Health

Annexe to Psychotherapy

This page is part of: Emotional health

8) What is a psychotherapy?

It is a mode of treatment exclusively using psychological techniques. That treatment is a good approach to harmonize emotional health. We have seen these techniques above:

- Surface psychology (counseling psychology and group psychology).

- Deep psychology (symbolic psychotherapy, strict analysis, analytical psychology).

- Psychology applied in a specific institution (institutional psychology).

Drugs tranquilizers (neuroleptics) may be associated with psychological treatments, in order to optimize emotional-health.

During an analysis, one of the objectives is to help a patient to be aware of his conflict (s); to become aware of his emotional problems and their roles in disease. When resolved, this internal conflict gives way to a renewed mental and physical energy, to a greater harmony and a better balance of personality. In short, it gives way to a cure that helps achieve success and happiness.

The patient's personality, culture, education, situation, condition, age, but especially his genuine desire to be healed, come into account when psychotherapy is being considered.

• Overcoming neuroses

Like all other physical or psychological diseases we describe in this site, it is important to understand that a disease can be eradicated using several therapeutic approaches; because one approach can work for someone, but not for someone else. That is why, we have proposed a section below titled: Two words on diseases and healing.

It is important to be aware that a given approach is not necessary a panacea. By the way, several therapeutic approaches may be necessary to overcome an illness. Sometime, the combination of several therapeutic techniques is the key to healing; the key to a better emotional-health.

In addition we want to repeat this: A disease may have one or more causes. It is possible to overcome some physical or psychological illness, by applying rules of basic hygiene. That is why, in the very beginning of our conversation, we have talked about the health of the body, soul, mind (intelligence) and emotions.

But further, with these topic: Sexuality, Money; Human relations (interpersonal relations); Economy-Politics-Religion (spirituality), we are conscious of providing other working tools which can also take the name of therapeutic approaches.

A good nutrition can overcome a nervous depression. Of course, if a poor diet is behind that nervous depression. In the same way, a healthy soul, mind and emotions, can overcome a neurosis, fears, phobias, anguish and anxiety. Sexuality well understood and well lived, can overcome emotional blockages and psychological inhibitions. Good interpersonal relations, as good understanding (application) of economy-politics-religion (spirituality), can help overcome shyness, sentiments of inferiority (feelings of inferiority) and feelings of guilt.

Good nutrition contribute to a good emotional-health; in addition to avoid the possible harmful side effects of certain chemical medications and treatments.

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Having said that, for all the following topics, psychoanalysis is a powerful therapeutic tool. Psychotherapy has been proven, even at international level. Psychoanalysis has established its credibility. A psychoanalyst, a true and good one, can help anyone who has the burning desire to become better.

Who wants to be healed? That's the question. The question is vast and complex; very vast and complex; so vast and complex that we could be limited by space and time, if we decide to go to the smallest details. We just want to give a good overview of the issue regarding emotional-health.

If you want to talk to us (issue, remark, comment, critic, etc.), be at ease. We are there for that, at your service. The Institute of Human Cultivation (IHC) belongs also to you. This site is also yours. However, after you have read and studied this site, you'll find that you have the essentials at hand. Let’s go straight to the point: you have more than needed to keep the ride; to win other victories and be happy!

• Overcoming depression

Depression can affect children and adults. Depression is a dreaded disease; because its manifestation is not always obvious. Depression is a serious danger to emotional-health.

Some depressions are latent and crafty; these are the most dangerous. Because someone might suffer from depression, without knowing that he/she is suffering from depression. And even when depression is evident in its symptoms, some patients refuse to see this reality face to face. "No, I am not mentally ill"; they say. "It's just a small temporary fatigue, it will be ok"; they add. But that denial does not always work.

Consequently, some persons suffer from deep depression; sometimes during all their lifetime. This suffering, both physical and psychological, is bitter; because for them, life is unbearable; they have lead in the wings. Some of them accumulate failures and miss their lives, while a good psychoanalyst would have restored their zeal; and helped them grow wings, the wings of faith. They go from drifts to drifts, while a good psychotherapy would have put wind in their sail; in order to lead them to a port of peace and restfulness, a haven of success and happiness.

Emotional-Health, Various types of depression :

• Mild depression (dysthymia)

• Major depression

• Bipolar disorder (manic-depressive)

• Seasonal affective disorder (related to changes of season)

• Postpartum depression (15% of new mothers)

• Atypical depression (different from usual models)

Here is a list of symptoms linked to depression. Unfortunately, this list is not exhaustive. Wile browsing this list, stop and take time to think.

• Mood disorder

• Too much sadness

• Loss of interest in activities (interesting before)

• Sense of helplessness

• Feelings of worthlessness

• Feelings of guilt (constant feeling of guilt)

• Anguish

• Anxiety

• Crying too much, or not crying at all

• Feeling useless (constant personal devalorisation)

• Difficulty to think and concentrate

• Slow down of mental activity

• Too think too much about death and suicide

• Etc.

Physical symptoms of depression :

• Low energy and fatigue

• Decrease in libido (sexual desire; sex drive)

• Pain in the body

• Change of appetite

• Change of weight

• Disruption of sleep (too much sleep, or not enough sleep)

• Agitation

• Too slow body movements

• Frequent constipation

• Verbal flow (too slow or too fast)

• Frequent headaches

• Etc.

It is possible to overcome nervous depression and regain a good emotional-health. But first, what is depression? Depression is the disruption of psychological life (the psyche), affecting mainly the mood (gloom, melancholy, being fed up, boredom, sadness, moral pain); these are subjective symptoms.

Depending on the extent of depression: anxiety, feelings of incapacity, feelings of worthlessness, feelings of guilt (sentiments of guilt), can lead to thoughts of suicide; and suicide. There is a decrease in muscle tone and energy of a depressive person. He/she suffers from physical exhaustion (feeling tired) and burnout (lack of attention and memory). A depressive person lives in slow motion.

Symptoms of depression vary greatly, because of the multiplicity of personalities and causes of depression. That is why the previous symptoms should not be taken literally. Sometimes, the human body “plays” double play. Neurotic depressions are less serious than psychotic depressions. Between these two extremes, intermediate forms exist.

Some symptoms of depression and chronic anxiety are similar. A health professional is able to make an accurate diagnosis.

Causes of depression :

Depression can be caused by an imbalance of chemical substances in the brain. In this case, neurotransmitters (norepinephrine and serotonin) don’t send (or don’t send enough) messages between nerves in the brain.

Depression can also be reactive; it means: caused by difficulties of life (poor diet, loneliness, grief, overwork, negative thoughts, emotional-health issue, etc.).

But depression can also be symptomatic (organic disease). Diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, etc., can cause depression.

Treatment for nervous depression

The treatment for nervous breakdown must take account of external causes and the psychological structure of an individual. In one way or another, someone should not stick only to symptoms of depression, it is recommended to find the root of a depression. The root is the primary cause. Finding the root of a depression is the best a fastest way to regain a good emotional health.

Tranquilizers drugs (neuroleptics) may be added to a psychoanalytic treatment. Some antidepressant medications reduce the symptoms, but the root of depression remains; so the depression persists. A good psychotherapy can help someone find the root of his/her depression.

For example, depression can be caused by loneliness; loneliness can be caused by inferiority complex; inferiority complex can be caused by an emotional blockage (after an emotional failure); etc. Here is the chain:

---emotional blockage---inferiority complex---loneliness---depression---loneliness---

In this example, it is clear that an emotional blockage has led to inferiority complex; that inferiority complex has led to loneliness; that loneliness has led to depression. Take note that depression can also cause loneliness. This example is a short chain; more links could be added. That is why we have left the ends of the chain free--- because other links can be added and form a larger complex; links can be added at the end or within that chain.

You see? A train may hide another. During a psychotherapy, by discovering the emotional blockage (the root of a depression), someone can work on the source of that depression and be healed. But unfortunately, many treatments (physical or mental) fail because some health professionals do not know... or do not have time to trace the source of diseases. These professionals stick on symptoms, and therefore obtain symptomatic results. In this example, depression is only a symptom. The problem is deeper... an emotional blockage that impair emotional health.

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• Overcoming emotional blockage

Emotional blockages are legions. By emotional blockages we mean: the fact that a person can not express his/her emotion (s). For one reason or another, that person has repressed a part of his / her personality. This could be a thought, a sensation, an intuition or a sentiment. Some affective blockages are caused by an affective failure, following an affective rupture.

For example: two people love each other, live together, but separate. A physical separation can also lead to an affective rupture; and vice versa. This phenomenon is very common. Of course an emotional rupture or separation is painful, and calls into question the whole being. The notions of love and trust, the meaning of human relations, and so on, are strongly shaken. This difficult situation is not good for emotional health.

After a separation, people react differently; some of them, psychologically stronger than average, will bounce and turn the page. Those are perhaps the ones who inspired the saying: "One lost, thousand found."

But other beings, more fragile, will be very sad; and get mad. Their deep psychology will be shaken, shaken from top to bottom. But we have this friendly piece of advice for them: «Be careful.» For if they are not very careful, they might be emotionally blocked. Depression and neuroses may affect them. Some of these people will close themselves, into solitude. They might develop inferiority complex, and feelings of guilt (sentiments of guilt). In their case, psychosomatic diseases are probable. Many times, we have observed what we are saying here. We have also helped few people to get rid of those problems.

But the most to fear is that many emotionally blocked people will lock themselves, into solitude. And in so doing, they will innocently (unconsciously) refuse to establish other intimate relationships; because they are afraid of the pain that may occur from another emotional failure. They are easily understood. That refusal, into solitude, is a protection mechanism; a form of refoulement. By living into solitude, the person tries to avoid other painful experience of this kind. But extreme solitude is not good for emotional health.

What happen in their subconscious? That emotional failure, buried deep in their subconscious, is constantly pushed back by their Super-Ego. Their Super-Ego ensures that the painful memory (affective failure) do not reach the conscious. For this painful memory creates fear and anxiety. Whenever the person thinks or wants to establish another emotional bond (relationship), the unconscious memory tries to reach his conscious.

But the Super-Ego represses that recall in the depths of his unconscious. This mechanism of repression (refoulement) is done in order to protect the person, to ensure a certain psychological balance. That person has no control over this unconscious mechanism. This unconscious mechanism is bad for emotional health, because it devours physical and psychological energy of that person. That's why a physical and nervous depression might happen.

Some people, emotionally blocked, can develop an insidious hatred against women or men. Because through women and men they meet, they see the woman or the man they had trouble with before (the separation). This aversion or hate is made possible by other psychological mechanisms named transfer and projection.

Another category of emotional blockage is linked to the mother or/and father. A painful experience, during early childhood, might block a child; that child might become an emotionally blocked woman or man, with bad emotional-health. Such a painful childhood experience might lead to an unconscious hate of the mother or father. Unconscious hatred of the mother or father, might provoke hatred of a woman or man. Unconscious hate of a woman or man, might lead to hatred of the Feminine principle or Masculine principle. A mother who unconsciously hate her father or mother, might unconsciously hate her son or daughter; this psychological mechanism is also a transfer or a projection.

Following the same logic: a boy who unconsciously hated his mother or father, might in the future unconsciously hate his daughter or son; this is also a transfer or a projection. Other combinations are possible; but consequences are much the same: to generate other neuroses. That is why relations between parents and children should be taken very seriously, in order to avoid serious emotional-health issues.

Many people have been suffering from various neuroses, following a mistaken education: unresolved Oedipus complex or Electra complex. Thus, some people have missed their professional or/and love life. We will return to this point in the section titled: Family relationships (husband and wife, parents and children). See the web page: Human relations.

As we have said, emotional blockage might lead to emotional depression and disharmonized emotional health. It might also lead to a sexual blockage (sexual impotence, frigidity, sexual deviations, sexual immorality, perversion, perversities, sexual crimes, sex crimes, etc.). We will develop that in the section: Sexuality ♥. But an affective blockage might also lead to some dangerous acts of little praise, such as proxenetism, prostitution, consumption of illegal drugs, murder, abuse of authority, mafia, gangsterism, and so on.

And yet, it is possible to find a solution. But first, someone must recognize that there is a problem. Then ardently desire to solve that problem. Psychoanalysis is a powerful tool for analyzing the contents of the unconscious (personal and collective). Psychoanalysis is not the only tool, of course.

But this proven technique can help someone to understand (to be conscious of) the root causes of an emotional blockage; this efficient method can help unblock someone, in order to revive his/her deep sentiments and emotions; in order to balance the whole personality and help him/her taste life again.

• Overcoming psychological inhibitions

Like neuroses, depression and emotional blockages, psychological inhibitions are nervous disorders. They can origin from failures, frustrations or erroneous education. Thus, someone may inhibit a thought, a sensation an intuition or a sentiment.

These four functions form the psychological structure of living beings. We have already said that. But someone may also inhibit emotions or intellectual faculties. However, emotions and sentiments influence thoughts and actions; thus, the importance of learning to release emotions, sentiments and virtues; learning not to inhibit them, in order to harmonize emotional-health and win numerous victories. Our physical well-being is tied to the well being of our emotions and sentiments.

You can overcome psychological inhibitions; by learning to cultivate virtuous emotions and sentiments. By cultivating virtuous emotions and sentiments, inhibitions are removed. By nurturing the truth, goodness and beauty in our subconscious, we can surely overcome psychological inhibitions.

Emotional-health and virtues

For a good emotional health, we have already given a list of virtues in the section: Health of the soul. They are: Love, Joy, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faith (fidelity, confidence), Gentleness, Self-control. And we have proposed a working method, in the section: How to awake your emotions and sentiments, in practice?

By exercising so, patiently, a strong impulsion will start to lead you towards more noble aims; your joy of living will increase. Your attitude towards yourself and others will become praiseworthy. The development of positive emotions and sentiments eliminates negative emotions and sentiments; some unconscious conflicts can be solved; some neuroses can be broken. Phobias, fear, anguish and anxiety can be eliminated. Shyness and loneliness can be overcome. The feelings inferiority (or complex of inferiority) and sentiments of guilt may disappear, emotional-health is optimized.

The awakening of emotions and sentiments, with the help of the culture of virtues, is a very good antidote against psychological inhibitions. See: Health of the soul

But also against few spiritual poisons that impair emotional health: selfishness(egocentricity), greediness (avarice), presumption (to have a too high opinion of oneself), the love of the ego, pride (to be haughty), blasphemy, disobedience (against parents, oneself, knowledge and competent authority), ingratitude, infidelity, wickedness (insensitivity), harshness (headstrong), unforgiveness, defamation (to slander), lack of self-control, cruelty, not lovers of the good, etc. These vices generate psychological inhibitions, and prevent someone from success in happiness.

• Overcoming fear

Fear is a violent fright in front of real or imagined danger. Fear is not good for emotional health.

We have titled this section: Overcoming fear. But let’s understand well. The goal is not to eliminate fear. It is rather to identify, understand, control and channel fears towards noble objectives and virtues.

Fear itself is not a handicap. But when fear paralyzes someone and unable him/her to succeed, it becomes a real handicap. It is normal to be afraid. For a rational fear puts us on alert; a reasonable fear can make us react promptly and effectively; of course, if such a reasonable fear is well controlled.

As we have stated in the section: Emotional-health (feelings, emotions, sentiments): Fear is one of the most widespread feelings today. Lot of people are afraid of everything and nothing. It seems like this civilization is distilling fear through education provided by some of its institutions. The culture of fear. Some people are afraid of being afraid: the fear of fear... Don’t be afraid.

"Easier said than done", you may tell me. And yet, it is possible to learn not to be afraid. It is even necessary to eliminate this culture of fear. The fear of being abandoned and the fear of falling are the only two fears known by children. These two types of fears are natural. Other types of fears are cultural; they are acquired through education... erroneous education.

In the section: Faith (see the page: Health of the soul), we have said this: Many people are inhabited by the fear of failure, but paradoxically also by the fear to succeed and be happy. The fear of happiness... Faith is a large shield with which it is possible to turn off adversity. Faith is also synonymous with confidence.

With strong faith, it is possible to overcome fear and failure. It is possible to be protected against all kinds of dangerous maneuvers of the enemy. Do not ever doubt yourself and your ability to win victories; to move mountains. Move toward these victories, armed with an ardent faith; a faith solid as a rock. A strong faith harmonizes emotional health.

Fear, doubt, worries, concerns and lack of self-confidence are sometimes interrelated. They impair emotional health. An unreasoned fear may lead to failure. Because unjustified fear, out of control, destroy vital forces of the soul. Physical, mental and spiritual energy are reduced by such morbid fear. Such fear tortures and deprives of success and happiness.

Every human being seeks peace, security, balance and pleasure. When these realities are threatened, the sensation of fear, anxiety, loneliness and fear may arise. The pleasure principle and the fear principle are two great human principles. Since its birth, a human being continually seeks pleasure (psychological and physical comfort, peace, security, balance, welfare, health, etc.). When this pleasure is threatened, fear appears and may impair emotional-health.

The best way to confront these hurtful fears, is to seek the root causes; the roots of these harmful fears. Most of the time these root causes are buried in the depths of the unconscious. If one learns to discover the real reasons for these fears, it is possible to eradicate them with their roots. Fear disappears and freedom appears, when someone distinguishes reasonable fears from unreasonable fears.

"Psychoanalysis can help explore real and imaginary fears", and restore emotional health. We know that fear must be taken as a whole. Sometimes a healthy body, soul, mind and emotions; a flourishing sexuality; good interpersonal relationships and good understanding (application) of economy-politics-religion (spirituality), can help overcome many unnecessary fears. These are practical tools that this site offers. They help to have good emotional-health. But other helpful tools are also available. We will display them soon.

Let’s say it again: "Fear must be taken as a whole. Negative emotions or sentiments such as: hatred, sentiment of inferiority, feelings of guilt (sentiments of guilt), and so on; psychological disorders such as: nervous depression, emotional blockages, psychological inhibitions, and so on; may be the source of many harmful fears. Poor nutrition can weaken the psyche, and prevents someone to face fear with all the strength and mental flexibility required. Good nutrition contribute to a good emotional health. A bad experience can take root into the unconscious, distills fear and unconsciously prevents someone to move forward; hence the importance of taking care of oneself as a whole. You can... you have to overcome harmful fears, lest these fears overcome you."

The fear of living, the fear of getting sick, the fear to fail, the fear of dying, dying of fear... Uncontrolled fear is bad for emotional-health. Why are people afraid of their shadow? Do not be afraid! Let’s face it. With silence and meditation, analyze each of your harmful fears. Identify them, understand them, control them, channel them towards success and happiness.

• Overcoming phobias

Here is another enemy of emotional health. Everything, or almost everything that we have just said about fears can be applied in the context of phobias.

But first, what is phobia? Phobia is fear; a fear in presence of an object or situation not really dangerous. In absence of the phobogen object or phobogen situation, that fear always disappears. Someone who suffers from phobia of any kind, acknowledges that it is absurd but is unable to overcome that phobia.

There are phobias of people, animals or objects. Phobias of impression (someone is afraid to commit a harmful act). Situational phobias. Photogenic situations are not good for emotional-health.

Several phobias:

• Ereutophobia: to be afraid to redden (blush, turn red) in public.

• Hydrophobia: fear of water. In some cases, this sign may be a symptom of rabies.

• Agoraphobia: intense anxiety felt in an open space (public square, street, etc.).

• Claustrophobia: fear of enclosed spaces (room, elevator, grotto, cave, etc.).

• Phobia of transportation / transportation phobia (fear of air plane, train, car, boat, bicycle, etc.).

• Phobia of defenestration (fear of empty space, dizziness).

• Phobia of sharp or pointed instruments (fear of pen, guillotine, knife, razor, etc.).

• Photophobia: fear of light.

• Phobophobia: fear of fear. The fear of being afraid.

• Self-phobia (the fear of oneself)

• Etc.

But there are many other phobias: fear of natural elements, fear of crowds, and so on; all this phobias form phobic neuroses and may impair emotional health.

The subject suffering from phobic neurosis tends to avoid; he / she is timid, hyperemotional. But can also be excessively active (hyperactive). Phobias may occur transiently in other personality disorders.

As with many negative emotions or sentiments, paralyzing and harmful, psychoanalytic psychotherapy can help. Drugs tranquilizers (neuroleptics) may be added to a psychoanalytic treatment.

• Overcoming anguish and anxiety

Some authors explain the difference between anguish and anxiety:

Anguish follows a painful event. In other words, someone become anxious when the distressing event takes place. For example, a separation that causes emotional distress. A failure of any kind may cause anguish. Uncontrolled anguish is not good for emotional-health.

Anxiety precedes a painful even. An anxious person experiences a diffuse fear in relation to an event to come. The event may be real or imaginary. For example, a couple may feel anxiety because of a possible separation. A child may feel deep anxiety if his parents are about to leave. Uncontrolled anxiety is not good for emotional health.

Pathological anguish is a malaise characterized by a feeling of indefinable fear. This sentiment of fear is accompanied by painful oppression, palpitations and other physical manifestations. Neurotic anxiety is characterized by a crisis of anxiety. During a crisis of anxiety, intense fear of an imminent danger seizes the person. This danger is vague and not precise.

The following physical events characterize morbid anguish: palpitations, feeling of choking, sweating, dizziness, tremors, etc. These events alarm the person; and that person will ask to be examined. However, no organic lesion is reported by medical examinations. Most of the time, emotional shock, painful events, living conditions, etc., can trigger neurotic anxiety.

There are many sources of anguish.

Birth may be a source of anguish for a baby. That anguish of birth occurs during the separation of the baby and mother. Please read: The Trauma of Birth. According to Otto Rank, the trauma of birth is the most distressing human experience.

The anguish of separation is caused by fear of being rejected by others; fear of being alone; fear of being abandoned. These fears may be real or imaginary.

Some children and adults may feel guilty to leave their mother or/and father. They feel like abandoning their parents. Thus, they fail to conquer their independence and take other responsibilities. Think about what you just read, when you will read the section: Overcoming sentiments (or complex) of inferiority. That coming section will help harmonize emotional-health.

To conquer their independence and take other responsibilities... But here are few phrases suggested by the unconscious of such adults: "Ho, women are boring. I did not find my shoe size... Marriage and affective relations always lead to failure. This is not the time to seek a woman, I have all my time. Now I am busy with my school, my job takes all my time. I do not have time to look for a woman, I must take care of my parents (sometimes, he talks about taking care of his mother who actually does not need his help at all)."

Such an adult is a past master at finding reasons, pretexts; a past master at falling back on his feet, whatever the circumstances. And yet that adult feels that the issue lies elsewhere, and his reasoning is an escape forward; an escape forward, in order to avoid the anguish and anxiety of separation (between him and his parents); or to avoid the anguish and anxiety of a union (a marriage; a relationship). Those anguish and anxiety are sometimes fed by sentiments (or complex) of inferiority; a sign of impaired emotional health.

In these sentences, above, some women may replace the word woman by man.

Obviously these anguishes are rooted deep in the unconscious. They are basic anguishes. Eventually, neuroses will also plant their roots in the unconscious. That is why a psychoanalytic treatment should help the patient to plunge to the depths of his subconscious, in order to uproot the cause of theses anguishes, and resolve neuroses and complexes.

Anxiety, is the painful feeling of an imminent and not well defined. From normal anxiety to pathological anxiety, there are varying degrees of anxiety. During an anxious crisis, a person feels an intense fear and panic. He can’t control this fear and panic that are not justified by external circumstances. An anxious crisis may freeze someone, perturb him, or make him walk aimlessly.

Sometimes an external cause as a failure, an accident, a conflict, and so on, causes anxiety. Pathological anxiety is the main symptom of most neuroses: neurotic anxiety, obsessive neurosis, phobic neurosis, hysterical neurosis, and so on.

Morbid anxiety can be a part of psychoses. But in psychoses, anxiety is more dramatic and intense.

During organic diseases such as heart diseases, respiratory diseases, etc., pathological morbid anxiety is present.

Anxiety can lead to psychosomatic illnesses. That is to say: organic diseases that have their roots in psychological disorders. Examples: ulcers, sexual impotence, frigidity, paralysis, hair loss, declining vision, and so on. Psychosomatic diseases may happen when someone somatize his / her negatives emotions.

Most children are unable to define and explain what they feel, that is why anxiety is difficult to identify for this age group.

Again: as for many negative emotions or sentiments, paralyzing and harmful, psychoanalysis is helpful. Drugs tranquilizers (neuroleptics) may complement a psychoanalytic treatment and help harmonize emotional-health.

NB: fear or anxiety well controlled, well-channeled, can be a powerful social engine (may help someone to achieve great things); like fear and other emotions or sentiments we discuss in this site. But pathological anguish and anxiety, morbid, must be considered seriously and treated with great care.

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• Overcoming shyness

Shyness is the temper of an emotional individual who lacks self-confidence, and suffers from inhibitions in social relationships. This temper may be permanent or transitory. A timid individual lacks of confidence in himself. There are different levels of timidity; because like all other emotions and sentiments, there are different degrees of shyness.

But in general, average timid individual goes unnoticed. Without noise, he pursues his way timidly; making sure that he is not noticed. He avoids human contact. He feels like blushing, and actually turns red, when he has to come into contact with people. The fright, panic, and paralysis of his physical or psychological potentials disturb those contacts.

Timid people have many opportunities (employment, opportunity, soul mate, etc.), but their shyness may prevents them from seizing their opportunities and fructify them. An attentive observer might think that this timid is willingly clearing off, shrinking himself, making himself smaller and smaller. Uncontrolled shyness is not good for emotional health.

But the truth is that many timid people are sometimes good fighters; tough ones. They fight hard, to assert themselves and succeed. But a malicious net seems to hold them prisoner. Someone or something seems to pull the internal strings of their willpower. The conflict takes place in the depths of their subconscious. As in many neuroses, it is in the subconscious that the decisive battle must be engaged.

In general, timid people do their best not to show their shyness. This physical and mental effort destroys their vital energy. A timid individual suffers internally and is aware of his suffering. Many timid people want to get rid of their timidity, but do not know how to do it. And yet, it is possible to overcome shyness; as we shall see soon.

Most of the time, shyness is just a symptom. And this symptom is sometimes far from reality. During a psychoanalytic analysis, from awareness to awareness, the timid discovers that his shyness hides something else deeper.

A timid is sometimes an anguished or/and anxious individual. This unconscious anguish or anxiety, may steam from unconscious defense mechanisms such as perfectionism (wanting to do everything to perfection, to be uncomfortable when a small error happens, to want to be impeccable at all cost). That perfectionism can hide an intense sentiment of inferiority or a complex of inferiority. Here is the chain:

---timidity---anguish or anxiety---perfectionism---complex of inferiority---.

You see? That timidity is just a symptom; because three other mental causes, linked, are involved. As soon as the complex of inferiority (the root, the primary cause) will be resolved, the chain will be broken, shyness will disappear by itself. the person will have a better emotional-health.

But let’s be clear. Wanting to be perfect, avoiding errors, being impeccable… are not bad. Actually the Institute of Human Cultivation invites you to pursue these noble virtues. But when that pursue is motivated by neuroses, it become harmful.

Childhood traumatism may generate a complex of inferiority; that complex of inferiority may generate perfectionism (wanting to do everything to perfection, to be uncomfortable when a small error happens, to want to be impeccable at all cost); that perfectionism may generate a sentiment of guilt; that sentiment of guilt may generate anguish or anxiety; and that anguish or anxiety which can be manifested by symptoms such as timidity. Here is the new chain:

---Timidity---anguish or anxiety---sentiment of guilt---perfectionism---complex of inferiority---childhood traumatism---.

We have said childhood traumatism, but a traumatism may happen at any age. Note that other links can be added to this new chain; to the ends or to any part of the chain, and form a larger complex. Note that trauma and sexuality are sometime linked; both may impair emotional health.

Here are some symptoms of sentiment of guilt:

* Always doing everything for others, but nothing for oneself.

* Search physical and psychological suffering (masochism).

* The sentiment of inferiority.

* Being aggressive or anxious, when receiving criticism or advice.

* To adopt behaviors in that prevent from criticism.

* The subject is afraid of being reprimanded or dismissed.

* Doing everything to be forgiven.

* Always feels the need to justify himself.

* The person is relieved when he/she feels accepted.

* The subject has an excessive need to be admired.

* Etc.

Obviously the root of these symptoms is unconscious. The primary cause of these symptoms is buried in the subconscious. This primary cause is acting in the depths of the subject without his awareness. As we just seen, the primary cause can be a complex of inferiority or a childhood traumatism. And whenever this painful primary cause wants to emerge to the conscious, it faces the Super-Ego (the moral, the part of subconscious constituted by what is allowed and forbidden, a part comprised of cultural and educational values). That Super-Ego rejects (refoulement) these causes in the depths of the unconscious. The Super-Ego is a censorship, a kind of psychological police, a controller who is trying to protect the psychological balance of an individual.

All these mechanisms which take place unconsciously, without the knowledge of the person who is suffering from morbid timidity, devour its vital energy. Physical and nervous depression may happen; and with this depression other psychological illnesses, physical or psychosomatic diseases.

In order to be healed, the best is to trace the source of this shyness. A well-guided exploration of the unconscious (personal and collective) may reveal the primary cause of this timidity. The root of this shyness is in the subconscious. This exploratory analysis reveals the origins of the shyness. That's why the exploration of that deep universe (the unconscious), is the key that opens the door of assurance and self-confidence; that is to say the door of true healing and better emotional-health.

• Overcoming loneliness

Healthy loneliness, or voluntary loneliness, can be a tool for personal development. Sometimes someone feels the urge to retreat into solitude, in order to reflect and accomplish great things. Many great things are done in silence and solitude. The time spent in this solitude varied, depending on the personality of the subject and the goal.

This kind of solitude is a sweet solitude. It is a loneliness consciously decided, with a mature mind. It is the solitude of an authentic holy person, a healthy mind, an intrepid researcher, a monk-soldier, a great thinker, a tireless solitary, etc. Yet in their desired loneliness, these beings manifest a loving solidarity; loving as the word. Their emotional health is good. They do not lose contact with reality, people and true love. It is a healthy solitude.

But morbid shyness can lead to unhealthy solitude, or involuntary loneliness. In this case, the solitary being has not consciously decided to be alone; in all maturity. In fact, an unconscious anxiety might have forced that person to retreat into solitude. In his solitude, that being might be afraid to be alone; afraid of himself... These types of solitary beings seem to avoid people, sometimes because of an unconscious anguish or anxiety. Perhaps, their unconscious anguish has been generated by an emotional shock or a painful experience.

Most of the time this unconscious anxiety has its origin in childhood, but sometimes it is during adulthood. The memory of a bad experience (with something or someone) may have been refouled in the subconscious; creating a neurosis or a complex that is rooted in the unconscious. For the subject, the quest for solitude becomes a way to avoid reliving those painful memories. Involuntary solitude is a morbid solitude, a pathological solitude.

In a pathological loneliness, a solitary being suffers emotionally; because he is conscious of being alone; he is aware of his pathological loneliness, a morbid loneliness. This solitary being would like to establish sincere links with things or people. But whenever he thinks of doing so, these painful memories come to his conscious. And as in the case of shyness, these painful unconscious memories face the Super-Ego (educational, cultural and moral values). The Super-Ego is the censorship; it acts as a psychological police. In order to “protect” the conscious and avoid an more sever emotional unbalance, the Super-Ego represses these root causes (painful unconscious memories) in the depths of the unconscious.

All of these mechanisms happen unconsciously, without the knowledge of the person, these mechanisms devour his vital energy. Nervous and/or physical depression may follow. That depression may cause other psychological, physical and psychosomatic illnesses. The painful feeling of loneliness manifests itself even when the subject is with his peers, his friends of his family.

Morbid loneliness may be linked to an emotional blockage, psychological inhibition, fear, phobia, anguish, anxiety, a sentiment of inferiority (complex of inferiority), or a sentiment of guilt. We see how in the mental domain, everything or almost everything is linked. These neuroses and many others mental illnesses have prevented many people from having success, from taking their place under the sun, in other words to succeed and be happy. It is possible to overcome loneliness. Psychoanalysis, among other methods, can help trace the sources of loneliness. But by putting into practice all what our Institute provides, it is possible to overcome loneliness and regain a good emotional-health.

• Overcoming sentiment of inferiority (complex of inferiority)

Sentiment of inferiority (complex of inferiority) may origin from castration; a psychological castration. A person psychologically castrated often shrinks himself, devalorise his potential. Noiselessly he goes unnoticed. He pursues his way timidly, making sure that he is not noticed. As in the case of shyness or loneliness, an individual psychologically castrated is afraid to affirm himself. Actually he has lost the possibilities to assert himself. Or, let’s say that these possibilities have been refouled, repressed in the depths of his subconscious. This situation is not good for emotional health. What is an individual psychologically castrated?

But first let’s see what the Oedipus complex is. Psychological castration may origin from an unresolved Oedipus complex. For a girl, the equivalent of the Oedipus complex is: the Electra complex.

Oedipus complex. An oracle predicted that Oedipus would kill his father Laïos, King of Thebes, and marry his mother Jocasta. But Oedipus escaped death at his birth. He will be raised by the king of Corinth. A few years later, Oedipus is exiled; he will have an argument with a passenger and kill him, without knowing that the passenger was Laïos his father.

At Thebes the Sphinx uses to submit an enigma to people and kill those who couldn’t find it; Oedipus will solve that enigma and get rid of the Sphinx. Delivered from this monster, people of Thebes proclaimed him King; Oedipus married Jocasta the queen, but Jocasta is his own mother. The prediction was therefore completed. When Oedipus discovered the awful truth, he pierced his eyes and resumed the path of exile.

Freud gave the name of "Oedipus complex" to an erotic attachment that a boy fells for his mother; and to its corollary (the sense of rivalry toward the father). As we will see, unresolved Oedipus complex may perturb emotional-health.

Elektra Complex; or Electra Complex. Elektra loved her father Agamemnon, passionately. When Aegisthus, the lover of her mother, assassinated her father, with the complicity of that mother. Elektra swore to avenge. With the help of her brother Oreste, she killed her mother Clytemnestra; the adulterer and lover usurper.

As we will see, unresolved "Elektra Complex" may perturb emotional health.

This love without limit for the father, who led the murder of the mother, is what establishes parallel between the fate of Elektra and that of Oedipus. In psychoanalysis the Elektra complex is for a girl, and the Oedipus complex for a boy.

Diana Complex is also linked to girls. Diana, the huntress goddess, symbolized especially among Romans chastity and lunar light. Diana gave her name to a psychoanalysis conduct which is a denial of femininity and sexuality: the Diana complex.

That was a brief reminder regarding mythology.

According to psychoanalytic theory, the Oedipus complex (Electra complex for girls) is the most important complex. That complex is a normal phenomenon which occurs in children between 3 and 5 years old on average. The Oedipus complex and Electra complex, consist of a series of contradictory sentiments experienced by a child for his parents. The girl loves her father (an exclusive love), but she opposes and jealous her mother. The boy manifests an exclusive love for her mother, but he fells hostility and jealousy for his father.

But all serious psychoanalysts roughly agree that the reality is not so simple; because the child also had positive feelings toward the parent of the same sex (as the admiration and the desire to look like that parent). To overcome this confrontational position, a child should be able to identify with that parent of the same sex. The Oedipus complex is more frequent than the Electra complex. But both should be resolved in order to optimize emotional-health.

When the Oedipus complex is not resolved, it remains refouled and generates neuroses. These neurotic disorders will be generated both in children or adults. The resolution of the Oedipus complex or Elektra complex should be done with the intelligent assistance of parents and educators; of course, these parents and educators should be psychologically balanced and informed.

Now, what is psychological castration?

Castration is the removal of the ovaries (ovariectomy, oophorectomy), or testicles (orchiectomy). Please take note that it's not that kind of castration which will be discussed. In psychoanalysis, castration complex and castration anguish correspond to all desires and fears aroused in children during their awareness of the difference between gender. Anxiety associated with castration appears normally between 2 and 5 years. For a girl, that anxiety is manifested by the impression of having been deprived of a penis; and for a boy that anxiety is manifested by fear of penis mutilation (fear of genital mutilation).

For a girl and boy, the castration complex must be resolved around age 6, to insure a good emotional health. The complex is resolved by the acceptance of their sexuality, by their identification by the parent of the same sex. The persistence of castration complex generates conflicts, neuroses. We see all the social and symbolic significance of the womb (matrix) and penis. Parents and educators should be aware of these realities, because when they are distorted by an erroneous education, they generate a large number of surprising behaviors. These curious behaviors could sometimes seem bizarre.

For a girl

NB: For a girl, the Oedipus complex is the Electra complex.

Attracted by her father, she competes with her mother. In fact unconsciously, that girl desires her father; a guilty desire (incest), an unconscious desire. That is why that girl jealous her mother (she sees her mother as a rival). That girl aggressively opposes to her Mother-rival. This aggressiveness creates guilt and anxiety, because she is afraid of being punished and abandoned by her mother... the Mother.

That girl is afraid of losing her womb (matrix); because for a girl, the anguish of castration is crystallized on her matrix. That is why she is afraid of losing her womb (physical fear). She is also afraid of having her female personality castrated (psychic fear). That's the oedipian situation, actually the electra situation.

Little by little, if the Electra complex is resolved, the girl identifies herself with her mother; sexual identification. This girl learns to seduce. She ceases to try to supplant her mother; she ceases to try to seduce her father, and turn to other men. Her femininity starts to flourish. Her mother becomes her friend. Her emotional-health is optimized. Let’s say it again: The resolution of the Electra complex should be done with the assistance of intelligent parents and educators; those parents and educators should be well balanced and informed, of course.

In case of an unresolved electra situation, sexual infantilism and masculinization (defeminization; virilization), among others, are to be feared. Psychological womb having been castrated, the girl who become a woman may find it difficult to flourish. Her sexuality could deviate from its main “object” (man). Her body may not be embellished with tender forms. Painful period, refusal to be open to man, to have relationship, to have children..., are frequent.

This psychological and physical inhibition could block the development of that woman. She may remain fixed at an infantile age. Having been masculinized, she may avoid marriage (between man and woman). And if ever she married a man, she might be so aggressive (morbid aggressiveness) that her marriage might be in jeopardy. She may be very, very kind and submitted; but that false behavior hides a pathological aggressiveness.

The feeling of guilt is always present in this case, she may have the constant desire not be rejected and the constant desire to be accepted. In order to reach these contradictory desires, she may be willing to endure the unimaginable... to make someone endure the unimaginable. Her emotional health is perturbed.

A devouring mother, dry and overly aggressive is often the cause of an unresolved Electra complex. A girl is confronted (psychologically) to a mother who did not know or could not help her to pass this crucial stage of her life. Such a non-informed mother, or a castrating and masculinised mother, could castrate her daughter. Then, the castrated girl is fixed to a mother that she dislikes. That mother becomes a Mother-enemy. This girl may become masochist. That is why she may welcome suffering and misfortune. And with these neuroses: failure, unhappiness.

For a woman, to be psychologically castrated means: being cut off from her natural possibilities; to cease to be open to the world (literally and figuratively). For a woman, to be castrated means: to become too masculine. So castration should be considered under sexual, emotional and social aspect. But the three aspects are interrelated; one aspect influences others.

For women, here is a brief list of behaviors related to the anguish of castration. Obviously this list is not to be taken literally; because for the castration complex, things are more complex than that. This is not a play of word...

A subject may not show any symptoms. Another may show only one symptom or a combination of symptoms. And the manifestation of one or more of these symptoms does not mean necessarily that a woman suffers from castration anxiety. Although established by renowned psychoanalysts, this list does not constitute an accurate diagnosis. But while reading... while studying this list of symptoms and behaviors, reflect. Reflect very carefully.

* The distressing desire to be accepted and loved by others.

* The exaggerated need to be loved.

* The exaggerated need to receive external marks of affection.

* To do whatever she can to have the feeling of being loved.

* Difficulty to love and / or fall in love.

* Fear to assert her personality.

* The fear of men (male gender).

* Fear to be penetrated by a man.

* The fear of being an adult and take responsibilities.

* The fear of living (may include the fear to improve her financial situation).

* Exaggerated need of independence or dependence.

* The search for older men (unconscious search of the father).

* Paralyzing shyness (morbid shyness).

* Sentiment of inferiority and sentiment of guilt.

* Frigidity (low sex drive).

* Frequent masturbation.

* Masochism (physical and psychological).

* Sadism (physical and psychological).

* Fixation on the father or/and the mother.

* Woman-child.

* Childhood caprices (childishness).

* Authoritarianism, clause to tyranny.

* Devouring woman; devouring mother.

* Morbid aggression against spouse, children, people, things.

* Female-male (masculinised, virilized, defeminized) who refuses motherhood.

* A too charming woman.

* Refouled sexuality (repressed sexuality).

* Latent or declared homosexuality; sapphism (female homosexuality), lesbianism.

* Sexual deviation (probable).

* Perversion and perversity (probable).

* Incest (probable).

* Bestiality (probable).

* Etc.

That is why it is important to resolve the Electra complex, with the help of her parents intelligent reactions, educators, and the girl. In doing so, the mother will help her daughter to identify with her (the mother); sexual identification. This mother should teach her daughter to “seduce”. With love, mother and father have to make their daughter understand that she can not “possess” her father; because her father is already married. This is how this girl will stop trying to supplant her mother (to conquer her father); and direct her seduction towards other men. Her femininity will be flourished. That girl will become the friend of her mother. Her emotional-health will bloom. Her Electra complex will be resolved.

But in case of an unresolved Elektra complex, psychoanalysis can trace the source of the complex and provide considerable assistance to a woman. Because it is in the depths of the unconscious that the Electra complex has been refouled and rooted from early childhood; therefore it is important to go in the unconscious, identify, understand and engage the fight with the help an authentic psychoanalyst. This is how that complex will be resolved.

If well resolved, the personality of that woman will be rebalanced for the best. The four functions of her personality thought, sensation, intuition, sentiment will work in harmony. That woman will be balanced. Her physical, psychological and spiritual energies will be revived; and with the revival of these energies, will follow the revival of her life as a whole. Her emotional health will flourish. Success and happiness will begin to smile with her.

For a boy

A boy is attracted by his mother, he wants to “possess” her, but he face a powerful obstacle: his father. The boy becomes jealous. Unconsciously, he wants to “possess” (sexually and emotionally) his mother for him alone and tends to push back (eliminate) his father.

Anguish, aggressiveness and guilt appear; because this unconscious incestuous desire makes him fell guilty. So the boy competes with his father. When the boy is sexually attracted by his mother, he fears sanctions of his Father-rival. He fears that his father may punish him, by removing his virility. The boy fears that his father mutilates and castrates him (psychologically, of course). Because in the mind of that boy, to be guilty means: risking being castrated. Since for a boy, the anguish of castration is crystallized on the penis. That is why he is afraid of losing his penis (physical fear).

He is also afraid of having his male personality castrated (psychological fear). That boy is also afraid of being punished and abandoned by his father. A boy who faces (psychologically) a tyrannical or ignorant father, a father who did not know or could not help him to overcome this crucial stage of his life, could be psychologically castrated.

If the Oedipus complex is resolved, the boy tries to imitate his father (in a virile way), to equal him, and to do better than him. He stars to affirm his male role and to become independent. At the same time his attraction for his mother becomes a more and more virile protection, until adulthood. So, the Oedipal situation is harmonized. Again, the resolution of the Oedipus complex must be done with the wise assistance of parents and educators; those parents and educators must be well balanced and informed; they should have a good emotional-health.

For a man, to be castrated means to be cut off from its natural possibilities; to have difficulty to pierce (sexually, socially and psychologically). This sexual, social and psychological penetration is needed to assert his personality and be happy. For a man, to be castrated means: to become too feminine (literally and figuratively).

But beware; a man can be sexually virile but socially impotent. In other words, a man may well penetrate a woman (sexually speaking) but not penetrate the society and affirm himself. The reverse is also true. In both cases, such a man may avoid... In both cases his emotional health need to be harmonized. Castration should be considered from the sexual, emotional and social aspect. But here again the three aspects are interrelated. One aspect influences the others.

A castrated child has refouled his hostility towards his father. But in order not to reveal this hostility, that child shows a false appearance. He becomes kind to his father, too kind; too submissive; because he his afraid on being punished and abandoned. But that false kindness hides a morbid aggressiveness.

When he becomes a man in society, he shows the same extreme kindness and courtesy: false kindness, false courtesy. He feminizes himself and shows false submission, as he did with his father who castrated him. His sexual or/and social virility is compromise.

A castrated man may avoid marriage and emotional ties with women. In its game-bag, full of ideas, he always finds a good reason to justify a situation that he would like to change. As already mentioned, talking about the sources of anguish, here are a few phrases that his unconscious may suggest: "Ho, women are boring. I did not find my shoe size... Marriage and affective relations always lead to failure. This is not the time to seek a woman, I have all my time. Now I am busy with my school. My job takes all my time. I do not have time to look for a woman, I must take care of my parents (sometimes, he talks about taking care of his mother who actually does not need his help at all)."

Such an adult is a past master at finding reasons, pretexts; a past master at falling back on his feet, whatever the circumstances. And yet the issue lies elsewhere: the castration. His reasoning is just an escape forward; an escape forward, in order to avoid anxiety and anguish of castration; anguish and anxiety of castration fed by sentiments (or complex) of inferiority. A castrated man has a perturbed emotional-health.

Indeed, the issue lies elsewhere, it is an escape forward. He feels it and suffers from it. Such a man may develop a certain physical and moral masochism; he may love to devalue his potential, to minimize himself, to make himself smaller and smaller; when he faces evens, when he is with is peers, his friends or his family. The sentiment of inferiority and guilt, which unconsciously perturb him, creates a negative shyness and aggressiveness; morbid aggressiveness towards its peers and authority; the authority symbolizing the father in his unconscious; the father who castrated him. A nervous and physical depression may start; failures and misfortune are at hand.

Emotional blockages and psychological inhibitions may ruin the life of a castrated man, and that of his entourage. Fears, phobias, irrational anguish and anxiety make him avoid the competition. Advices, criticisms and blames are unacceptable for him. But under false appearance of virility, castrated man falls below ground (psychologically); when challenges occur, when a confrontation occurs, when comes the time to engage a virile fight. The hate of women is not excluded; targeted crimes... He may look for jobs and occupations that symbolize the father (police, army, etc.), in order to express an authority he does not have; an authority that his father deprived him from because of the castration.

Again, here is a brief list of behaviors related to the anguish of castration. Obviously this list, just like the previous one, is not to be taken literally because things are more complex than it appears. A castrated individual may not show symptoms. Another may show only one symptom or a combination of symptoms. And the presence of one or more of these symptoms does not necessarily mean that someone suffers from anxiety of castration.

Although established by renowned psychotherapists, this list does not constitute an accurate diagnosis. But during your reading... your study, ponder and reflect. Ponder and reflect seriously.

* Exaggerated desire to be loved.

* Exaggerated desire to receive external marks of affection.

* Do the impossible to have the sensation of being loved.

* Difficulty to love and / or to fall in love.

* Fear and hatred of men.

* Fixation on the father or/and the mother.

* Man-child.

* Childish caprices.

* Fear of the authority.

* Submission and exaggerated revolt against the authority.

* Paralyzing shyness.

* Fear of the competition.

* Frequent sentiment of inferiority and guilt.

* The fear of being an adult and take responsibility.

* The fear of living (may include the fear to improve his financial situation).

* Intense libido, unsatisfied sexuality.

* Too charming with women.

* Fear of older women.

* A feeling of security with older women.

* Refouled sexuality.

* Fear and hatred of sexuality (mens fear of female sexuality)

* Fear to penetrate a woman

* Male-female (effeminate) who refuses to have children.

* Fear and hatred of women.

* The need to besmirch women (to sexually humiliate them).

* The need to sexually humiliate women (these women represent the Mother.)

* Sexual and / or social impotence.

* Frequent masturbation.

* Latent or declared homosexuality.

* Probable sexual deviations.

* Probable perversion and perversity.

* Masochism (physical and psychological).

* Sadism (physical and psychological).

* Bestiality.

* Incest.

* Unconscious search of failure.

* Exaggerated need of dependence or independence.

* Etc.

Living (if one can call it living) with the feeling of being little or nothing, is frustrating and tiring.

Feeling barely tolerated by others, feeling not to be in his place is painful.

Always feeling guilty when issuing a personal opinion, or when entering into competition with others (below or above in grade) is not easy.

Having always the sentiment to be tricked; and being satisfied after having tricked others is annoying.

There is a profound unease, when someone always feels like being heard or observed; it is uncomfortable.

But it is possible to overcome the sentiment (or complex) of inferiority and regain a good emotional health. A refouled Oedipus complex can be solved, as well as many neuroses that could be linked to it. A good psychoanalysis, well performed by a competent psychotherapist, allows awareness. Such awareness will help "see" the Oedipus complex refouled since childhood.

After an understanding of this refoulement, the subject expresses and expands his personality. His personality is balanced by the psychoanalytic treatment. The four functions that form the structure of living beings: (thought, sensation, intuition, sentiment), are harmonized. His emotional-health is optimized.

His physical, mental and spiritual energies increase. His Ego is strengthened. His inhibitions disappear. His creativity, his memory and other faculties are deployed. His sexuality is expressed at peak efficiency. His physical and psychological manhood unfolds. Such a person starts to improve his financial situation. The authenticity of his being becomes manifest; authenticity to others and to himself. This new creature understands and applies the triad economy-political-religion (spirituality) to his advantage. Success and happiness are within the scope of such a new being.

• Overcoming feelings of guilt (sentiments of guilt)

In psychology, the feeling of guilt means: to feel guilty. In some pathological cases, such as melancholic psychosis, sentiment of guilt can be extreme and lead to delusions. The patient accuses himself of having made mistakes (but in reality he/she has not made them); and this can lead to suicide.

Anguish and feeling of guilt always go hand in hand. Pathological aggressiveness may be added. Anxiety, feelings of guilt and aggression (negative aggression) are present in any neurosis.

As already stated in the previous section: Overcoming shyness, anguish can generate a sentiment of guilt. And this sentiment of guilt can cause unconscious timidity that is manifested by symptoms such as: the need to be impeccable and perfect. Sentiments of guilt impair emotional health. Here are some symptoms of guilt:

* Feeling of inferiority (sentiment of inferiority, complex of inferiority).

* The subject is aggressive or anxious, when receiving criticism or advice.

* Too much inflexible.

* Too much flexible

* The person adopts behaviors that make him immune from criticism.

* Too much kindness and politeness.

* Too submitted (a submission that hides morbid aggressiveness).

* The person is afraid of being blamed or rejected.

* The subject is doing everything to be forgiven.

* The person always feels the need to justify himself/herself.

* The subject is relieved, when he/she feels accepted or forgiven.

* The subject feels the extreme need to be admired.

* Unjustified fear (s).

* Pathological shyness.

* An anguishing need to always do things perfectly (perfectionism).

* Etc.

Let’s repeat it: anxiety, guilt and aggressiveness (negative aggressiveness) are always there in any neurosis. In fact, if you allow, they are the tripod. These feelings are not separate, but form a whole. These sentiments appear after the basic anguish (the first anguish, the root of neurosis), due to the experience (wrong education, painful events, etc.) Anxiety, guilt and aggressiveness (negative) can occur following varied orders; and they impair emotional-health.

By aggression, we means morbid aggressiveness (negative aggressiveness); of course. Normal aggressiveness is the expression of any activity, an outward activity. This natural aggressiveness, when properly managed, can help fight and succeed.

A normal aggressive being, looks for his/her well-being and the welfare of others.

Abnormal aggressiveness is destructive, hostile. Abnormal aggressiveness is almost always based on fear. In order to escape his/her real or apparent fear, a subject may become abnormally aggressive. This morbid aggressiveness is for him/her a defense, an unconscious protection.

Pathological aggressiveness can be: physical, psychological, direct, indirect, formal and non-formal.

Physical aggressiveness: someone will beat his wife or her husband, because he/she is scared of him/her; because he/she feels "inferior" to him/her.

Psychological aggressiveness: someone will sulk his wife or her husband, for the same reasons or others.

Direct aggressiveness: to assault someone or something directly; for example, to kick someone or something.

indirect aggressiveness: to assault someone or something indirectly; for example, to hurt a child in order to hurt his parents.

Formal aggressiveness: to drown someone.

Non-formal aggressiveness: to avoid assisting someone who is drowning.

But self-aggression also exists. Taken to extremes, this form of aggressiveness can lead to suicide; individual or collective suicide.

Most of the time, the feeling of guilt is deeply unconscious. Only symptoms are visible. This feeling of guilt, deeply unconscious, may also causes obsessions, manias and some pathological shyness. Psychoanalysis, among others methods, can help overcome feelings of guilt (sentiments of guilt).

Yes, psychoanalysis, among others approaches, can help optimize emotional health; can help overcoming: neurosis, nervous depression, emotional blockages, psychological inhibitions, fears, phobias, anguish, anxiety, pathological shyness, loneliness, feelings of inferiority (sentiments of inferiority), feelings of guilt, etc.

But any therapeutic approach should emphasize the need for good nutrition (qualitative and quantitative); healthy body, soul, mind and emotions; a well understood and well lived sexuality; a marvelous interpersonal relations; a good understanding (application) of the triad economy-political-religion (spirituality), etc.

And this completes that...

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